It hasn't really clicked yet.
When I was a kid I remember how hard it was to learn the multiplication tables (if you know me you're probably laughing at this). I tried to memorize them, studied for hours, cried, fought with myself, complained, and didn't learn them. In fact I was close to the bottom of my class in math. Until one day it clicked. In one spectacular moment something in my brain shifted slot and I understood. I understood what multiplication meant. At that moment it was no longer mere numbers I was trying to memorize but a process, almost a living thing. I *knew* multiplication and very quickly went to the top of my class in math.
But until it clicked I couldn't do it at all.
And if you're struggling in some area of your life then something hasn't yet clicked for you. Because if it had you'd be doing it instead of struggling with it. Simple.
So what do you do if you want to make a change but it isn't clicking yet?
Stop fighting. Stop thinking you "should" or beating yourself because you "haven't" yet. Instead put your focus on getting it to click in place. Tell your mind to work it out then go do something else. Chew on it for a while and let it simmer. Tell yourself that it hasn't clicked yet and ponder it, actively telling your mind to work it out.
Then go have fun.
Release it from your conscious mind and let your unconscious mind take over. Very soon you'll start seeing things differently. You'll start getting insights, new ways of looking at things, possibilities you didn't notice before. And soon.... way sooner than you think.... things will start clicking.
And once they do you'll zoom right up to the top of your class, just like I did in math!